Well, it’s been said so many times by so many people, but the problem is that what was said was also advise. But, because I can’t help it, I will add my voice to the choir and say: If they didn’t ask for your advise, they are not looking for it. In fact, even if they ask, they might not be ready for your advise.

So, what then to do to help your friend in distress? I don’t really know, but maybe it is enough to be there, to just be a sponge, or a bouncing board. And when that friend is us, we may realize that what we want is a friend, and not an advise guru. Let’s give the same to our friend in need.

And that is my unsolicited advise to you.

We grief at the loss of what we once thought we owned. A loved one, silent to talk no more, is probably one of the worst moments of pain we have to go through at one or other stage.

In these moments, it is hard to remain positive. But when we can, it helps remembering that someone is never truly gone. That imprint they made on your heart will live on. And you too, will live on through the pain.